New Member of HQ

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Hi guys!

Meet this little cutie. Also known as the newest member of the clan. His name is Rodger and he’s only 13 weeks old. Only a wee Bubba!

Rodger is a present from my husband for my twenty sixth birthday which is tomorrow.  Twenty six! Gosh, it doesn’t seem like five minutes since I was turning twenty one. How time flies when you’re having fun.

I was very suprised when my husband said he’d bought me one. After six years if ooh ing and ah hing over the cuties in my local pet store I can finally say that I have a rabbit instead of just dreaming about it. I’m hoping Rodger will help with my mental illness and keep my creative juices flowing over the years that I’ll have him.

I already have two dogs, Patch, a cross between a labrador and a spaniel,  and Tess, a Lakeland Terrier. Tess is seventeen while Patch is the youngest at eight.  While I love them both to bits they don’t help ease my depression and anxiety. I find myself being calmer when I’m around cats and rabbits. Everybody is different which is a good thing. Who’d want to be the same?

It’s also been eight years since I started my magnificent journey with my novel,  Pandora’s Kiss. It now stands at 52k and I’m onto Chapter Sixteen. It’ll be a bit of a stretch as I am having my younger siblings stay over from Thursday until Saturday. Whether I’ll manage to get any work done is a question that I can’t answer.

A busy week ahead but a fulfilling one.

Have a good week!

Blaze

What’s In A Name – Pseudonym or real?

Hi guys!

This week I’m going to talk about pseudonyms, otherwise known as pen names. They are often used when the author wishes to make a name for her/ himself in that pacific genre or when wanting to keep their identity for the short run.

There is still a debate on whether pen names are needed to write a book. Many of times I’ve heard the question on social media. Do I need a pen name? Would it be better? I always answer with the same response. Do what feels right for the book, and for you. 

Not many authors use their real names. J K Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter series, wanted to use just her first name,  Joanne and her surname but changed it to her initials due to the agent’s fear of boys not wanting to read a female author. There’s not much of a difference. However, she is also known as Robert Galbraith, a pseudonym she uses for writing crime. In an interview I can remember her saying that she wanted to differentiate herself from being the author of a children’s book.

That’s common, too.

I use a pen name to write because I think my name is too boring to be associated with a dystopian young adult fantasy series. My real name is Katie Harrison. My pen name is Blaze Mckenna. Now, which one of those sounds more appealing? You’re going to say, Blaze aren’t you? I know you are. :p.

Pen names can be quite fun.

Should you have a pen name for writing your book? Don’t ask me. The answer lies with you.

Have a good week!

Blaze

Trigger Warning -Stigma – Living with Depression and Anxiety

Hi guys!

How was your week? Did you enjoy yourself at the weekend?

My week has been uneventful to say the least. I managed to hit one of my targets with communicating (I was a selective mute at school due to being bullied and abused at home and I’m still trying to change that). I managed to hold a conversation with someone who I hardly knew and I was fine.

My weekend, however was horrific.

I’m in a support group and someone had said that they were going to take their own life which was devastating for me but the comments she received were just enough to trigger anybody to self harm or worse.

For those that don’t understand what I mean by trigger I will explain. To trigger someone is to mention something that reminds the victim of what happened and causes them to have flashbacks which can lead to self harm or even suicide. 

By the end of it I felt pretty sickened. When is it ever ok to tell someone who is suicidal to go ahead and do it and to record the whole thing so they can watch? Never. That’s the answer.

Shocked? I was at the time. Not so much now.

Stigma like this happens all of the time for us mental health sufferers. We get belittled and constantly judged and pictured as lazy when really all we’re trying to do is fight another day through the pain,  exhaustion and devastation at bot being able to be ‘normal’ as some call it.

As humans we should be compassionate towards one another and reach out to those who are struggling every single day.

Calling a cry for help or ‘attention seeking’ as some people call it, is harmful and can lead to more bad feeling in the victim. At least that person is teaching out for support and care. Yes, it may not be ideal but that is their way of coping. Should it matter as long as they are safe? No. It shouldn’t. 

I would stay awake all night to talk to that person who was in need, even if it was a false alarm. I would do it for anybody.  People don’t attention seek for fun, they do it because they need help.

Most people don’t understand mental health. How can they when it’s a personal experience that has to be felt? Most of my friends just think I’m being silly and anti social but literally when I’m at my worst I can’t pick up the phone and talk for the fear of bringing them down because if it drains my energy what will it do for them?

Some make it about them while really, it should be how best to support that person.

There’s a risk of 1 in 5 people will be affected by mental health problems in the future.  You may think it won’t happen to you or your friends but like cancer, it doesn’t discriminate. It takes lives needlessly. Be kind. You never know what battle that person might be facing.

Wishing you love and happiness and a peaceful week.

Blaze.